If you listen closely, you can hear many people mired in a mental and emotional quagmire. It sounds something like, “When I achieve ‘X’ then I’ll be happy. When I get a raise and earn a six figure salary then I’ll be happy. When I have $1,000,000 in the bank then I’ll feel successful. When I get married then I’ll be happy. When I lose 20 pounds then I’ll feel attractive.” This is the language of the discontent.
In coaching hundreds of people, I have come to find that people who are genuinely happy and successful, are the ones that are choosing to be happy along the way to achieving their goals. Happiness is a choice.
They are the ones enjoying the ride along the way to the destination. Not to say they don’t hit a few pot holes or have to take a detour along the way. That’s simply part of life. They choose to have their radio of life tuned in to their purpose and no matter what commercial interruption comes on the station, they know it will eventually get back to their favorite music.
Your happiness is a state of mind not a state of affairs. Who controls your mind? You have to own that one. There is no room for blaming something or someone else here.
By choosing to be happy along the way you’re invoking a universal law. Actually your are getting in alignment with the force by simply not resisting or pushing back against it. By choosing to hold your vision of purpose (happiness) and being present with it, you’re invoking the law of attraction. You’re like a live magnet. You’re either attracting into your experience that which you want or you’re repelling it and making room for what you don’t want. By appreciating both who you are and what you already have, you are therefore more attractive to what you want. If you find yourself choosing to focus on what you don’t want for yourself in the areas of doing, being and having, guess what you will get more of?
Abraham Lincoln affirmed that people are as happy or as unhappy as they make up their minds to be. You have the choice of either being happy or unhappy. It’s that simple. Choose brilliantly.
Don’t wait for the circumstances to change. Decide and choose to feel happy and bring that experience to the circumstances. This will avail you to the favorable possibilities that do exist for your benefit; although they may have seemed to have eluded you up until now.
Socrates taught his students to endeavor to be what they desired to appear. Bring forth your brilliance by endeavoring to happily achieve your goals and desires. Plato who learned from Socrates stated, “The man who makes everything that leads to happiness depends upon himself, and not upon other men, has adopted the very best plan for living happy.” Take back your power and realize your happiness is up to you and no one else. Aristotle who was a beneficiary of Plato’s tutelage put forth the following, “Happiness is the meaning and the purpose of life, the whole aim and end of human existence.”
Make it up, make it fun & make it happen!